I know a girl who puts out and puts out a LOT. That is actually an understatement. I’ve never known someone who has slept with so many people and not been paid for it. Yet she wonders why she cannot snag a nice guy. Well, my dear, if you spread your legs so easily, why would a guy keep you? You cannot leave a bar with a guy you just met, fuck him in his driveway, and then expect him to call you. He cannot and will not ever take you home to his mother.
You cannot make it so easy for someone. If you put out as soon as you meet someone, then what do they have left to chase? Men like to chase, women like to be chased. You just took away the thrill of the hunt. If you put out that easily for one guy, how many other guys have you let between your legs? Especially if this happened in a bar bathroom or something.
But what about for guys? What about guys who get around? Does the same rule apply?
It does. There are really three ways this can go if you are the guy and you sleep with a girl you just met.
The first is that she goes home and you never deal with her again. Don’t get a complex about it. It’s not that you were bad in bed. It’s not that she didn’t like you. It’s not that she didn’t have fun. (Okay, sometimes it is those things.) She just knew what this was. It was a one night stand with some random she met out. If you had been hoping to see her again, sleeping with her that first night is what killed your chances of a relationship. Why though?
You made it just as easy as she did. All fun of getting to know someone and the anticipation of the first kiss and your first time sleeping together is gone. What is there to look forward to now?
The second is that she goes psycho hose beast and tries to never leave.
The third is that you do end up dating. But if you are someone who gets around, we can tell. So we are either going to play the game right back or disregard you. Sometimes sex is just that. It is sex. It is empty with nothing behind it other than your own personal pleasure.
Alternate scenario: you hook up a few more time, but nothing more.
A few weeks ago I was out with some girlfriends and there was a guy there. He was as gorgeous as they come. But he flirted with EVERYONE. No matter what the girl looked like. He tried to make every girl feel special. He probably gets laid a lot, but he is totally undateable. But I bet that most of the girls he takes home turn psycho hose beast on him. And he either wonders why or enjoys the attention. It feeds his ego.
But in general, a lot of women would pick up on his game and elect to just get what they can out of it and be done with him. Guys who do this are just as easy to play right back. Feed the ego, but act aloof about seeing them again.
Really, guys. Just like when a girl puts out on the first date and you decide that makes her undateable, we do the same thing. Not always- sometimes we go completely stalker, crazy, psycho. Every now and then something might stick. But if you are someone who is out screwing everything with tits, we can tell. If you want to date the girl, get her number, leave the bar, and call her the next day. Don’t take her home.